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In good time

I love the adage ‘good things take time’.

But then how is it that in today’s society of interconnectedness, being on rather than off, we have a bad case of impatience. 

How do you know you have a waiting problem? 

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In the virtual world, you know you have an impatience problem when:

  • you think your computer takes to long to turn on and load,
  • you call a person and you think answer after three rings or voicemail is slow,
  • you send an email and don’t get an immediate response.

Or what about in the physical world, where impatience means you can't stand it when you:

  • have to ‘take a number’ to be served,
  • wait behind a line of other people to get something you want now,
  • get stuck in traffic and miss the light, 
  • arrive late to work because the bus schedule wasn't accurate.    

These may seem like silly examples and on a blog post nothing more than everyday problems. Yet in reality take one of these situations, add a few more, a little dose of stress or pressure and you have the formula for a personal disaster.

By personal disaster I mean letting it get to you and doing the opposite of what you need to do. 

In response to such situations the best remedy is patience, calmness and centeredness. Easier said than done.  Yet if our senses are heightened we can be triggered into the impatience and ensuing emotional responses.

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Being in your funk so you can get out of it

Do you ever just have one of those days?  You know, the ones where you can’t seem to get out of your funk.  I say funk because I can think of no other word that encapsulates the feelings of apathy, frustration, anger, boredom, sadness, distraction, impatience, woe.  Well there are more I am sure, but I am not here to be a Thesaurus. What I am here to be is real.

So I decided that I would post when in a funk. Risky you might say. Some would say this will come back to bite me. Others may say don’t share your funk with me, it might be catching.  You are right.  On one level if I focus too much on my funk then I stay in it. On another level if I hang with you and let this foul smelling energy waft your way you will eventually feel it to. It is not my wish to stay in nor to share it.

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A: feel OK when you happen to fall into one yourself, and

B: are around a person you care about who also is in one.

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A letter to you before you are no longer physically here

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Dear loved one,

I send you this letter as a gesture of spirit, from one human being to another. 

You want for nothing, for your life has meaning.  Your presence in this world every day touches those around you, brightens their day and makes a difference, no matter how big or how small. 

Do not regret any unfinished or undone business in your life.  You live life according to your way and are an example to others for honoring this path.

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Take the garbage out

Tonight is garbage collection night. Driving along the street I noticed how my neighbours were neatly lining their garbage bins on the side of the road for collection tomorrow morning. It all looked so methodical and orderly. I am amazed at the routine and function of garbage collection as a service in any community. In suburbia and cities we often take it for granted that our waste can be so easily and conveniently discarded. It is almost as if out of sight, out of mind.

I know that there is a lot more to garbage collection than

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WellbeingJenn Shallvey